Can be someone be so selfish?  I lose my phone, he has the phone that I lent him, I needed to talk to someone after my heart is broken.  I wouldn’t check any of his private things, I just don’t want to continue seeing bad aspects of him, especially if it refers to lies, something that I really cannot tolerate.  He changed the apple ID in my phone that i had given to him, and now it does not matter how much i tried it won’t work.  So I cannot communicate with the external world.  I won’t be able to go to work.